The Feminine Touch


Remember the movie My Fair Lady? It began with wise Professor Higgins making a wager with a friend that he could take a girl off the street and change her life by teaching her the principles of proper speech and etiquette. He soon made a frivolous girl named Eliza the focus of his experiment. As you may recall, after months of great effort, Professor Higgins began to witness a total transformation in Eliza. She became polished, sophisticated, beautiful, and very feminine. Wouldn’t it be “lov-e-ly” to have someone take the time to transform us and make us all that we should be?

Well, we do have that “someone” and it’s the Holy Spirit! He is working inside of us, daily conforming us to the image of Christ! As women of God, we are becoming more and more like our Creator and Savior every day! We are becoming more radiant, and we are reflecting His image. This is a beautiful blessing for believers of Jesus Christ! It is so wonderful that our Creator created us to be females and that being feminine is our design. It feels good to know who we were made and designed to be!

Genesis 2:22-23 says, “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made He a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man’” (KJV). God precisely and distinctly made woman different physically and psychologically from man. That’s why it has been said that when Adam first saw Eve, he exclaimed, “Wo…Man!” (I think that’s so funny and probably true. Ha ha!)

Webster’s dictionary says the definition of “feminine” is: a characteristic of women; delicate; tender; sensitive. God has made us female and created femininity inside of us so that we can bless His Kingdom with that “feminine touch.” We have the privilege of bringing warmth, gentleness, and kindness to our personal lives, homes, and church. A “feminine touch” adds beauty to our surroundings. It brings pleasure to our family and our home. It softens the harshness of work and responsibilities. Our special touch cools the fevered brow, nourishes the hungry, and brings beauty and color to bare essentials. Our ability to touch others with our care and concern lightens the load of life. Our joyful touch ignites and inspires those around us to do greater things while our touch of enthusiasm brings a “spark” of creativity to those we care about and love.

As much as our society tries to promote “unisex” in everything from clothes to appearance, they will never be totally successful. They cannot change what God Almighty designed! Genesis 2:22 says, “The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man” (NASB). When God created the universe and all that was put in it, the terms that were used were “created,” “made,” and “placed.” The only time the term “fashioned” was used was when it described how He made the woman. God took extra time and care to design the female body! We are totally unique – we are God’s special design! We are beautiful and wonderful women of God who are blessed with true femininity to minister to the world around us with that “feminine touch.”

Learn from the Best: Become the Wife God Called You to Be


Marriage is hard work! Even though you love the man God has given you, keeping and protecting a healthy relationship can be a difficult task. But we as wives are still called to bring honor to our husbands. After all, A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4 NIV). 

Sometimes it is helpful to observe other women in your life who serve as examples of godly wives. In the Book of Titus, we are exhorted to listen to the women who “have the fruit on the tree,” so to speak, and to learn from them. Whether it be your mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, or perhaps another woman who has filled a motherly role for you, I encourage you to consider the women in your life and ask the Lord to show you how He is using them to impact your tomorrows and help you become a better you.

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5 KJV).

When Jesus taught on marriage, He did not settle for anything less than the original purpose that God proposed for marriage in the first two chapters of Genesis. When the Pharisees came to Jesus taunting him with regards to the teaching on marriage, this was His response:

“And He answered and said unto them, ‘Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.’ They say unto Him, ‘Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?’ He saith unto them, ‘Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so’” (Matthew 19:4-8 KJV).

My mother, despite being a single mom, pressed on tenaciously in the face of adversity and through the difficulties and trials of single parenthood. She is a brave woman who carried the load of a bread winner, disciplinarian, leader who brought us through turbulent times, and the overseer of everything that went on in my life as a child. Had I not learned tenacity from my mother, I may have given up when we hit a brick wall during our third year of marriage. I pressed on when I didn’t think it was going to work and broke through to victory – a happy and stable marriage.

We are never finished with the discipline of learning. We can glean much from the godly women in our lives by talking and listening to them. We can then become the blessing of a wife God always intended for us to be.

The Purpose of the Pot


We are a unique pot in the Potter’s hand. As a minister’s daughter I was introduced to the beauty of God’s holiness early in life: campmeetings, Sunday school, Holy-Ghost-powered church services, and mighty men and women of faith were a continuum in my daily life. I recall the mature women in Christ as shining examples […]

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A Spotless Child


I had just finished feeding my brand new baby girl. As she slept peacefully in my arms, I looked at her sweet little face and saw not a spot, not a blemish, not a scar – nothing but beauty. Her skin was like fine, white china, and her dark eyebrows arched perfectly over her sleeping […]

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Replace Loneliness with Mornings of Joy


Loneliness, often ignited by some form of difficult separation (particularly divorce or the death of a spouse), is a destructive spirit designed by Satan to place us in bondage. Unprepared, we easily fall victim to its accompanying emotions: despair, grief, depression, and bitterness. These emotions intensify when we are thrust into the roles of single parenting and […]

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Fight Like a Girl: Defending Your Title as a Woman of Destiny


You area mighty woman of God – a woman of power, purpose, and divine destiny! Before you were even born, seeds of destiny were deposited inside of you, promising you a life of fulfillment and significance. Like a prize-fighter wearing her championship belt, walking in your destiny declares to the world that you are a […]

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Becoming the Fragrance of Christ – Part II

Our testimony, when shared with transparency and an attitude of gratitude, can be a sweet fragrance to God and can impact those around us. This week we will continue to learn how developing our testimony is dependent upon three relationships: our relationship with God, our relationship with ourselves, and our relationship with others. Our Relationship […]

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Becoming the Fragrance of Christ – Part I


“…walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:2 NIV). Oh, how wonderful it is to see the season change and smell the newly budding trees and the vibrant flowers as they release their scent in the […]

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What a wonderful semester – full of fabulous food, fun fellowship, and the boundless message that we are strong princess warriors of the King of Kings! We learned how to be warriors in our health, thinking, homes, and even our ktichens! We also learned how to dress for battle, wage war in prayer, and how […]

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Ladies’ Night In is Tonight!


Don’t forget to sign up for the last Ladies’ Night In Bible Study of the semester tonight, May 27th. We still have 12 incredible classes for you to choose from! So, invite some girlfriends and be a part of the final night of fun for this semester full of delicious food, wonderful fellowship, and incredible teachings. There’s something […]

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