Doing the Right Thing


My mother was a single parent with two children to raise in the inner city of Los Angeles. She was also a godly woman who believed in “doing the right thing.” I used to complain about it all the time: “Why do I have to forgive or apologize first?” “Why do I have to let them get away with being mean?” But what I did not understand was that even though the odds were against her, my mother was setting the stage for a family life based on values and integrity.

As a child growing up, I didn’t know exactly when my parents divorced. I knew my dad left us in California to go back to Texas. I also knew that he rarely called us or checked on us. But I can’t remember when I actually stopped believing that he was going to come back home.

Clearly, since my mother had to take care of us by herself with no child support and almost no contact from my father, she had sole custody and sole decision-making. Looking back on it now, as a family law attorney dealing with child custody battles on a daily basis, I realize that my mother truly had the ability to put our best interests over her own. Her own parents were married for over 50 years, and having had every expectation that her marriage would last forever, my mother’s divorce was a bitter disappointment to her. I don’t think she ever completely recovered from my dad leaving her, but she never once tried to alienate us from him or destroy our impression of him in order to make herself feel better.

In custody cases, too often one parent belittles, criticizes, shuts out, or verbally destroys the other parent in the eyes of their children. I had a case once where the mother refused to let her son be coached by his father on his sixth grade football team. She told him the details of his father’s transgressions and that his father had abandoned them both, ultimately resulting in the little boy hating his father. She called me seven years later because her son hated having his father’s last name and wanted to change it for his eighteenth birthday. What she also said was that he was an angry young man who was mean to her, disrespected his stepfather, and had a hard time in his relationships with girls. With a bitter 18-year-old man on her hands, she deeply regretted sending her son’s father out of his life. Sadly, it was too late; the damage was done.

In choosing to follow Jesus’ example on the cross, my mother was able to protect her children from some of the harsh realities of divorce and parental alienation. Destroying a child’s impression of their other parent can sometimes destroy part of the child.

Today, more so than ever, when custody is determined by the Court without regard to gender, Christian women in custody disputes have a spiritual and moral responsibility to do the right thing. Your children will be better off in the long run, and someday when they are grown, they will thank you for it.

Wellness: Wisdom Through the Ages


Change is in the air! The warm embrace of a summer breeze is changing to a crisp fall kiss. Blossoming trees and flowers are preparing for their winter naps and we change from shorts to pants, tank tops to sweaters.

Yes, change is all around us, but one area of transformation that I am reluctant to embrace is our modern day food supply. I believe that the wise Christian woman must be aware of technology tampering with our sources of nourishment. Genesis 1:29 reminds us of our true food source: “Then God said, ‘I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food’” (NIV).

Modern food technology cranks out refined, processed, adulterated, irradiated “food-like edible substances” that don’t resemble natural food. The devitalized ingredients consumed in a regular diet over a long period of time promote nutrient deficiencies often leading to degenerative disorders. How does the wise woman of God revolutionize her family’s wellness (and her own) in the midst of the “modern-day mania” around food and nutrition?


This step promotes efficiency – time, energy, and money. Shop carefully and choose a variety of flavors, colors, and textures so that you can ensure a full range of nutrients. Also include a variety of lean, hormone-free, and antibiotic-free protein sources, such as beef, chicken, turkey, and cold-water (not farmed) fish. Try some different cooking techniques to add variety to your favorite menu, and include healthy fats (essential fatty acids) such as olive oil, flax seed, walnuts, sunflower seeds, and avocado.


Take care of what God gave you before you have to repair it. A well-balanced whole-food (mostly plant foods) diet promotes normal bodily functions. Finishing the day with sound sleep provides repair and restoration for those body functions. Healthy relationships filled with laughter and prayer will strengthen your “health” coat-of-armor. Any type of active movement will keep body parts (inner and outer) in much better working order. You don’t have to run marathons; just include extra movement throughout the day.


Benjamin Franklin’s famous saying, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure,” has been repeated by women for centuries. By taking the two previous action steps to greater health, we will take great strides in preventing numerous maladies and disorders. When our bodies are nutritionally full, we look better, feel better, and perform better, and that allows us to do all that we do for God’s glory.

Cold and Flu Prevention

Nature’s pantry provides several God-created foods that protect your body’s immune system from frequent colds and flus.

  • Add a tablespoon of chopped garlic or onion to chicken or beef broth. Though they cause your eyes to water and your nose to run, onion, garlic, ginger, horseradish, and turnips also stimulate lymph circulation and improve your body’s defense system.
  • Sprinkle ground cinnamon and clove on your hot cereal, or add a sprinkle of cinnamon to your coffee. Aromatic herbs and spices such as cinnamon, clove, cayenne, eucalyptus, or ginger warm the body as well as provide anti-oxidant protection.
  • A few tablespoons of ginger powder added to a warm bath can bring soothing relief from aches and pains. Ginger tea brings warmth, stimulates circulation, and reduces congestion.

She Builds


“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.” – Psalms 127:1 (NKJV)   “Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.” – Proverbs 24:3 (NKJV)   If I asked you to think of attributes that would best describe a woman, you would probably be able to […]

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Ladies’ Night In – TONIGHT!


Don’t forget to sign up for our monthly Ladies’ Night In Bible Study tonight, August 26th. We have incredible classes for you to choose from! So, invite some girlfriends and be a part of our fun girls’ night full of delicious food, wonderful fellowship, and incredible teachings. Hope to see you tonight, August 26th @ 6:30 […]

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Finishers of the Faith


Too many times young women today look to the media as their role model. Some women we tend to look up to may fall short, even if they are Christians. I have found that looking up to the “finishers of the faith” is more inspiring because they have truly finished, you know the end of […]

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Letting Go…One Tiny Bit at a Time


My heart sinks as she proudly walks down the sidewalk in her cute pleated skirt and button-up shirt, holding tightly to her brand new pink backpack. Sure, she’s old enough and ready—but I’m not! One single tear rolls down my cheek as I toss the sunglasses back over my face. I can’t let her see […]

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Ladies Night In – Coming Soon!


Ladies, It’s that wonderful time again!  The fall semester of Ladies’ Night In starts Tuesday August 26th!  As always, we invite you to join us for delicious food and fellowship at 6:30 PM, followed by your choice of two amazing classes. We will continue on with the powerful theme of “Princess Warrior” for the fall.  […]

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The Feminine Touch


Remember the movie My Fair Lady? It began with wise Professor Higgins making a wager with a friend that he could take a girl off the street and change her life by teaching her the principles of proper speech and etiquette. He soon made a frivolous girl named Eliza the focus of his experiment. As […]

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Learn from the Best: Become the Wife God Called You to Be


Marriage is hard work! Even though you love the man God has given you, keeping and protecting a healthy relationship can be a difficult task. But we as wives are still called to bring honor to our husbands. After all, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like […]

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The Purpose of the Pot


We are a unique pot in the Potter’s hand. As a minister’s daughter I was introduced to the beauty of God’s holiness early in life: campmeetings, Sunday school, Holy-Ghost-powered church services, and mighty men and women of faith were a continuum in my daily life. I recall the mature women in Christ as shining examples […]

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