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Let’s continue on with a review of principles from God’s Word that show us how to communicate in a way that brings honor and deepens the relationship between a mother and daughter.

Celebrate Your Common Qualities

Whenever I go back to Oklahoma to visit my family, I constantly hear from all of their friends, “You look JUST like your mother!”  “You sound JUST like your mother!”  “You’re gifted JUST like your mother!”

I’ll be honest with you and admit that in my younger years, hearing those comments used to drive me nuts!  What in the world did they mean?  Of course I’m not like my mother!  Why couldn’t they see me for who I am – as an individual?

But over the years, I have come to appreciate these comparisons to my mom, and I even consider them as the ultimate compliment.  I recognize that I have inherited from her my ability to teach, my sense of humor, and my overall love for life!

To enrich your relationship, be aware of and celebrate the positive qualities that you share.  Talk with each other about the things that you both love.  Let it be known that you recognize the gifts and abilities God has so graciously imparted into both of you.

“…whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8 NKJV).

Let Grace Abound

It is important to come to grips with the fact that your mother / daughter is simply not perfect.  She may not always see things in the same light as you.  She may not always agree with the way you do things.  But, nevertheless, she is yours!

“And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8 NKJV).

Decide that you are willing to overlook her imperfections.  Focus on the good whenever possible.  By learning to extend forgiveness and grace toward her, you will create a godly pathway of communication; one that will endure for a lifetime.

To summarize, the communication principles we’ve reviewed:

1. Make Love the Primary Focus
2. Prepare the Ground with Affirmation
3. Celebrate Your Common Qualities
4. Let Grace Abound

God’s Word is always our best resource and guide for life, isn’t it? If we can begin to communicate with these principles in mind, we will see a dramatic turn in all of our relationships. And, for that special mother-daughter relationship, we may see a new blossom that will enhance the beautiful bouquet that is this unique connection.