Learn from the Best: Become the Wife God Called You to Be


Marriage is hard work! Even though you love the man God has given you, keeping and protecting a healthy relationship can be a difficult task. But we as wives are still called to bring honor to our husbands. After all, A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4 NIV). 

Sometimes it is helpful to observe other women in your life who serve as examples of godly wives. In the Book of Titus, we are exhorted to listen to the women who “have the fruit on the tree,” so to speak, and to learn from them. Whether it be your mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, or perhaps another woman who has filled a motherly role for you, I encourage you to consider the women in your life and ask the Lord to show you how He is using them to impact your tomorrows and help you become a better you.

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5 KJV).

When Jesus taught on marriage, He did not settle for anything less than the original purpose that God proposed for marriage in the first two chapters of Genesis. When the Pharisees came to Jesus taunting him with regards to the teaching on marriage, this was His response:

“And He answered and said unto them, ‘Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.’ They say unto Him, ‘Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?’ He saith unto them, ‘Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so’” (Matthew 19:4-8 KJV).

My mother, despite being a single mom, pressed on tenaciously in the face of adversity and through the difficulties and trials of single parenthood. She is a brave woman who carried the load of a bread winner, disciplinarian, leader who brought us through turbulent times, and the overseer of everything that went on in my life as a child. Had I not learned tenacity from my mother, I may have given up when we hit a brick wall during our third year of marriage. I pressed on when I didn’t think it was going to work and broke through to victory – a happy and stable marriage.

We are never finished with the discipline of learning. We can glean much from the godly women in our lives by talking and listening to them. We can then become the blessing of a wife God always intended for us to be.

The Purpose of the Pot


We are a unique pot in the Potter’s hand. As a minister’s daughter I was introduced to the beauty of God’s holiness early in life: campmeetings, Sunday school, Holy-Ghost-powered church services, and mighty men and women of faith were a continuum in my daily life. I recall the mature women in Christ as shining examples of honesty, strength, kindness, wisdom, beauty, and thriftiness. These women literally showed me true beauty and purpose, which went far beyond the superficial clay on the surface. There were trials, but through them all, I believed I was beautiful and important to God. Knowing and understanding that God knew me before I was formed in my mother’s womb was reassuring in the trials.

As I grew, my grandmother taught me to cook, sew, and create functional crafts. I learned to love working with my hands, and repurposing items from their original intent into another became a passion. Today, we are taking an ordinary terra-cotta clay pot and transforming it into an extraordinary centerpiece filled with delicious chocolate. We will see how a simple, clay pot can be used for an entirely different purpose, and we will infuse an illustration of God’s truth into the project as we progress. How beautiful is the transforming power of Jesus! He changes us from, “…darkness into His marvelous light” (I Peter 2:9 NIV).

A simple, clay pot…when most people look at a pot, like the one pictured, they may immediately assume or conclude the intent for this pot is to hold dirt. The dirt will be seeded with a seed of the sower’s choice. Then, the seed will be watered and fed until a plant or flower appears above the soil. Oftentimes we look at others (or ourselves for that matter) and think, “I am just a simple clay pot with no particular value other than holding dirt.” Outward appearance provokes from us assumptions and conclusions. After all, for what other purpose is a clay pot to be used?

I am reminded of the passage in Jeremiah 18:1-6 (NIV); verse 4 says, “…so the potter formed it [pot] into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him.” We are clay in the Master Potter’s hands to be sure and He will use us for His glory as we yield ourselves to His intent. Verse 6 states, “…Like clay in the hand of the potter so are you in my hand…” 

This craft is quick and easy enough for little ones to help. Make this an opportunity to become one of those mighty mentors in your own home! After thoroughly cleaning the pots we will cook a delicious treat in them. Not only will there be a delicious treat inside but, we can decorate the outside with bright colors and sparkles to add to the festiveness of your table. 

Items needed:

  •  6 (3″x3.5″) untreated/unglazed terra-cotta pots (wash each pot thoroughly and dry completely)
  • Decorative ribbon (color of your choosing)
  • Glue


Ingredients for the cake:

⅓ cup oil plus more to brush pots
¾ cup unsweetened cocoa powder, plus more for dusting
1 ½ cups all-purpose flour
1 ½ cups sugar
1 ½ tsps baking soda
¾ tsp baking powder
¾ tsp salt
1 large egg plus 1 large egg yolk
¾ cup buttermilk (if you don’t have buttermilk add a drop of lemon juice to regular milk)
¾ tsp pure vanilla extract
½ cup crushed chocolate wafer cookies (approx. 10)
Rock-shaped candies
Mint sprigs for garnish

Ingredients for the chocolate frosting:

3 ½ cup confectioners’ sugar
1 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
12 tablespoons butter (1 ½ sticks)
½ cup milk (room temperature)
2 tsp pure vanilla extract
Sift sugar and cocoa together into a medium bowl. Whisk in butter, milk, and vanilla until smooth. Use immediately.


1) Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Brush the inside of each cleaned flower pot with oil, and line with foil. Brush lining with oil, and lightly dust with cocoa powder.

2) Sift cocoa, flour, sugar, baking soda, baking powder, and salt into the bowl of an electric mixer, fitted with the paddle attachment. Add egg and yolk, ¾ cup warm water, buttermilk, oil and vanilla, mix on low speed until smooth, about 3 minutes.

3) Divide batter among prepared pots filling each about two-thirds full. Transfer to a rimmed baking sheet. Bake, rotating sheet about halfway through until a cake tester inserted into the center comes out clean, 20 to 30 minutes. Let cakes cool completely on sheet on wire rack.

4) Make frosting as directed.

5) Frost cakes with an offset spatula and sprinkle with crushed cookies. Top with candies and “plant” one mint sprig in each cake.

The next time you see an ordinary clay pot remember it is not ordinary, you are not ordinary, and no one around you is ordinary. The vessel was made extraordinarily as seemed best to HIM!



A Spotless Child


I had just finished feeding my brand new baby girl. As she slept peacefully in my arms, I looked at her sweet little face and saw not a spot, not a blemish, not a scar – nothing but beauty. Her skin was like fine, white china, and her dark eyebrows arched perfectly over her sleeping […]

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Replace Loneliness with Mornings of Joy


Loneliness, often ignited by some form of difficult separation (particularly divorce or the death of a spouse), is a destructive spirit designed by Satan to place us in bondage. Unprepared, we easily fall victim to its accompanying emotions: despair, grief, depression, and bitterness. These emotions intensify when we are thrust into the roles of single parenting and […]

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Fight Like a Girl: Defending Your Title as a Woman of Destiny


You area mighty woman of God – a woman of power, purpose, and divine destiny! Before you were even born, seeds of destiny were deposited inside of you, promising you a life of fulfillment and significance. Like a prize-fighter wearing her championship belt, walking in your destiny declares to the world that you are a […]

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Becoming the Fragrance of Christ – Part II

Our testimony, when shared with transparency and an attitude of gratitude, can be a sweet fragrance to God and can impact those around us. This week we will continue to learn how developing our testimony is dependent upon three relationships: our relationship with God, our relationship with ourselves, and our relationship with others. Our Relationship […]

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Becoming the Fragrance of Christ – Part I


“…walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:2 NIV). Oh, how wonderful it is to see the season change and smell the newly budding trees and the vibrant flowers as they release their scent in the […]

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What a wonderful semester – full of fabulous food, fun fellowship, and the boundless message that we are strong princess warriors of the King of Kings! We learned how to be warriors in our health, thinking, homes, and even our ktichens! We also learned how to dress for battle, wage war in prayer, and how […]

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Ladies’ Night In is Tonight!


Don’t forget to sign up for the last Ladies’ Night In Bible Study of the semester tonight, May 27th. We still have 12 incredible classes for you to choose from! So, invite some girlfriends and be a part of the final night of fun for this semester full of delicious food, wonderful fellowship, and incredible teachings. There’s something […]

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Join us for the last Ladies’ Night In of the semester!


Ladies, can you believe Tuesday, May 27th is our last Ladies’ Night In Bible Study of the semester? We have had so much fun and been so blessed by all the ladies who have attended this semester. Lives have been changed, burdens lifted, and spirits elevated through God’s Word brought forth by our amazing teachers. […]

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