Forgiveness: God’s Antidote to Bitterness – Part II


Last week we shared how forgiveness can be hard when someone causes pain and hurt through words or actions. But we learned that when we walk in forgiveness, we prevent the enemy from polluting our hearts and minds with bitterness, anger, and rage. We cannot live out of our emotions and feelings, we must choose to forgive as Christ has forgiven us. Through renewing our minds in Christ it will give us the power to overcome unforgiveness. This week we are going to dive into the second part of antidote.

Prayer is key in order for God to heal and strengthen our hearts. When we pray, allow the Holy Spirit to pray (pray in tongues) through regarding the offense and our inability to forgive. Allow Him to intercede and He will supply what is lacking in our faith. “So too the [Holy] Spirit comes to our aid and bears us up in our weakness; for we do not know what prayer to offer nor how to offer it worthily as we ought, but the Spirit Himself goes to meet our supplication and pleads in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and groanings too deep for utterance…the Spirit intercedes and pleads [before God] in behalf of the saints according to and in harmony with God’s will” (Romans 8:26-27 AMP). By allowing the Holy Spirit to lead, all things will work together for our good. Our Father, the giver of peace, is able to “Strengthen (complete, perfect) and make you what you ought to be and equip you with everything good that you may carry out His will…” (Hebrews 13:21 AMP).

Today we can enjoy the blessings and liberation that result from forgiving those who persecute us. There’s power in forgiving! People who forgive are healthier and happier than those who hold grudges, because their thoughts and imaginations are no longer trapped in weighty emotions that build a wall between them and our Father. Additionally, forgiveness liberates us from sin that leads to fear and other physical and psychiatric problems. We no longer have to be on the defensive or frozen in our past. Just as important, forgiveness frees us to be more effective as a single parent and in the work our Father has called us to do.

Don’t be surprised or ashamed if others see forgiveness as weakness; our Father sees it as strength! When we stand in forgiveness, His grace is at work.  We are exhibiting the love of our Father spread abroad in our hearts; we become a master of our emotions. When love prevails, we are filled with our Father’s thoughts – His way of doing things. 

Pray this prayer:

Father, thank You for Your Son, Jesus, who died so that our sins might be forgiven. By faith we believe that You have imparted life – Your capacity to forgive. So, today, we cast all our cares upon You. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we crucify the appetites and desires of our flesh. We cast down every thought and imagination that does not honor You. We thank You that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Today, we choose to forgive, because we are forgiven; we let go of all bitterness, wrath, anger, and evil speaking, and put on love. We know that You are the healer of broken hearts and that You can heal us and give peace. We choose to think on whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of a good report (see Philippians 4:8). In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.


Forgiveness: God’s Antidote to Bitterness – Part I


At some point, we have all struggled with forgiving someone who hurt us through words or deeds. The flesh naturally rebels against forgiving anyone who hurts us deeply or causes us pain. Trained to respond to such circumstances through our senses, we find ourselves reacting emotionally in ways that eventually lead to physical, psychological, and spiritual destruction – not only to ourselves, but also to our children. The words we speak will also shape the relationship between our children and both parents; words have the power to further strain or to help heal the relationships.

It is very difficult to forgive and to speak words of encouragement when we are wounded, but the reverse (wounding our children through negative opinions) will only lead to problems that may be difficult to eventually overcome. We must allow our Father’s wisdom to penetrate our hearts, because it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks. If we permit our Father to comfort us, today will be a day of breakthrough! He has given us everything we need to recover. When we were born again, He gave us His nature – His capacity to forgive. This is how He knows we can do it! We are daughters of the King with the royal DNA of our Heavenly Father! Forgiveness prevents the enemy from polluting our hearts and the hearts of our children with anger, bitterness, and rage.

According to the Word, forgiveness is a reciprocal process. As tough as this may sound, our Father requires us to forgive, if we desire forgiveness. “But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your failings and shortcomings” (Mark 11:26 AMP). Our Heavenly Father understands that some offenses have more serious consequences than others, but He also knows that if we don’t forgive, healing and restoration will never occur. He knows forgiveness is possible because Jesus, who experienced every hurt mankind can experience, never stopped loving us unconditionally. He was persecuted, afflicted, beaten beyond recognition, jeered at, bathed in the spit of His accusers, taunted, and rejected by the sinners He loved and had come to save. He still allowed Himself to be hung on a cross to die for our sins and for our forgiveness, although man was His enemy. In spite of His sufferings, He asked our Father to forgive those who persecuted Him, “…because they know not what they do…” (Luke 23:34 KJV). He didn’t check in with His emotions for direction.His forgiveness was quick and automatic. While our Father does not expect us to subject our bodies to tree hanging, He does expect us to imitate Jesus, to model His behavior for our children, and to allow Him to heal our hearts.

Knowing that an unrenewed mind limits our ability to forgive, our Father wants to help us change our attitude and response to painful situations, although He does understand that becoming God-like is a process. He wants us to “…be constantly renewed in the spirit of your mind [having a fresh mental and spiritual attitude], and put on the new nature (the regenerate self) created in God’s image…” (Ephesians 4:23-24 AMP).

Next week we will continue with this topic and look to God’s Word to renew our minds and transform us into forgiving and grace-sharing vessels to those around us.



The Wise Woman Builds Her House – Part II

“For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, […]

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The Wise Woman Builds Her House


“For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, […]

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Ladies’ Night In – Tonight!

Don’t forget to sign up for our monthly Ladies’ Night In Bible Study tonight, March 25th. We have 12 incredible classes for you to choose from! We also have special classes for our young girls between grades 1st- 6th, as well as our teen girls grades 7th – 12th. So, invite some girlfriends and be […]

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Ladies’ Night In – March 25th


Ladies’ Night In Bible Study is next Tuesday, March 25th. We had so much fun in February with delicious food, wonderful fellowship, and over the top amazing classes.  Ladies left encouraged and refreshed after this great night. If you were not able to join us in February, sign up today by clicking on the image above. It isn’t […]

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How Does a Woman of God Manage Her Time and Money?

A few years ago, my husband hired a man to paint our dining room. As my husband explained why he wasn’t able to perform the paint job himself, the painter made a statement that left a great impression on me. He said, “Time and money are the two things you can’t have at the same […]

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Delicious Lasagna Rolls


Looking for a new dinner recipe to cook for your family? Try these delicious lasagna rolls that will become a favorite for everyone! Ingredients 1 box of lasagna noodles cooked as directed 1 pkg. Italian sausage, hot or mild ½ yellow onion, diced 6 garlic cloves, diced 2 29 oz. cans of tomato sauce ½ cup […]

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Ladies’ Night In – Tomorrow Night!

Don’t forget to sign up for our monthly Ladies’ Night In Bible Study starting tomorrow, February 25th. We have 12 incredible classes for you to choose from! We also have special classes for our young girls between grades 1st- 6th, as well as our teen girls grades 7th – 12th.  So, invite some girlfriends and be a part of our fun girls’ […]

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The Army is Arising!


Sunday night was a powerful , yet  fun, night for the entire family. From start to finish every element ministered to the hearts of God’s soldiers and encouraged them to rise up, stand, and fight against the enemy. When people first walked into the foyer they saw green camouflage sprinkled with pink everywhere. Crowns and […]

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