Communication – God’s Way Part I


This coming Sunday is Mother’s Day and this week we are looking at the mother-daughter relationship, which is a unique gift from God; one that can be compared to no other. As a mother, you look into the eyes of your daughter, and see a reflection of yourself. It is your heart’s desire to see her flourish.  You long for her life to be filled with blessings!

As a daughter, you know without a doubt that your mom would go to the ends of the earth for you.  When it comes down to it, you know that no one “has your back” quite like she does.

You talk with each other about every aspect of life; you share each other’s victories, as well as your struggles. You are connected to each other with a bond that will never be broken.  You have invested an incredible amount of love, emotion, and time into each other.

So, why is it that conversations often sound like this?

“You’re driving me crazy!”
“You’re not listening to a word I’m saying!”
“You don’t understand me at all!”

In spite of the strong connection between you and your mother / daughter, it is okay to admit that communicating with her in a healthy, godly way can at times be tough.

Webster’s Dictionary defines communication simply as “a verbal or written message.”  With that in mind, it is important to ask yourself, “When communicating with my mother / daughter, what messages am I really sending to her?”

The God of the universe is the Ultimate Communicator.  He has given us 66 chapters that send the message of how much He loves us.  As we look to Him, we can learn how to send that same message to our mother / daughter. Over the next couple of days we will review just a few principles from God’s Word that show us how to communicate in a way that honors our mother/daughter, as well as God.

Make Love the Primary Focus

The Word of God tell us, “Let all that you do be done with love” (I Corinthians 16:14 NKJV). The idea of “love first” seems obvious. But although we all know that love is the key to all relationships, it can be easily overlooked if not carefully guarded.

The Bible also reminds us that “…out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45b NKJV).  Life has a way of creating pressures, disappointments, and problems that can take a toll on your mind, will, and emotions.  Be mindful to not allow the stresses of life to push the love out of the time spent with your mom or daughter.

One thing I love about my mom is that she ends every one of our conversations with an “I love you!”  Whether our time together consists of laughing about something silly, or hashing through a disagreement, I can always count on hearing those three precious words before we say goodbye!

Prepare the Ground with Affirmation –Starting Today!

My mother believes that I am the most brilliant, anointed, powerful woman on the planet; at least, that’s how she makes me feel!   At times, it can almost be embarrassing going out with her, as she constantly tells anyone who will listen – whether we know them or not – how wonderfully accomplished I am!

Over the years, my mom has continually tended to the ground of my heart by speaking words of encouragement and affirmation over me.  As a result, these words have “softened the ground” producing healthier, life-giving communication between us.

As often as possible, verbally re-establish that you truly believe in your mom / daughter.  By cultivating the ground of her heart with words of edification, you’ll find she will be more open to what you have to say in the future, especially when discussing a difficult or sensitive issue.  After all, receiving correction or constructive criticism is much easier when you know the one giving it loves you unconditionally and is on your side!

“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver” (Proverbs 25:11 NKJV).

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