A Unique and Wonderful Treasure

In today’s society, we are continually looking ahead to where we need to go next and what we need to accomplish. We seem to be nonstop, running from soccer practice to dance recitals to parent-teacher conferences and everything in between. When we are goal-oriented and task-driven, we tend to focus on all of the things that we need to accomplish rather than the relationships that God places in our lives. We forget to place the true value on the treasures—the people—who are right in front of us.

If this does not describe you, I commend you. If it does, even a little, remember that God gave you your child, an incredible gift to cherish and enjoy. Psalms 127:3 states: “Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward” (NASB). Think about it—in His amazing wisdom, God specifically and intentionally chose youto be this child’s parent. He knew you would be the right person to treasure, value, and help the child grow. You are the perfect person for the job!

Discovering the unique treasure within your child takes an investment of time, effort, and finances. It’s like a great shopping adventure, but the result is far better than any trendy outfit or sale you could ever find in a department store! Connecting with your child is one of the most important things you will ever do. Seize each moment; capitalize on every opportunity. Learn how to connect with your child and unveil everything that God has made your child to be. You will never regret the investment, and the joy you will find is…priceless!

Here are some practical ideas to help you discover the treasure that is your child:

1. Schedule a Date. Plan individual time with each of your children to develop that special one-on-one relationship. Make the time all about them, and they will realize that you value them and believe they are special because of who they are. You’ll be reflecting God’s love to them and building their self-confidence. This also helps with behavior issues, because your children will understand that they do not have to act out negatively to receive attention. When your attention is divided, it can be challenging to discover what makes each child tick. Family time is very important, but it focuses on the group rather than the individuals. The specific timing of your one-on-one time with each child will vary based on age, schedules, and each child’s needs. Be intentional, look for creative ways to schedule time; then honor that commitment. The high priority that you place on cultivating the relationship with your child will form lasting memories and produce amazing fruit.
2. Practice Active Listening. The simple act of physically getting down on your child’s level allows you to see things through his or her vantage point. Maintain eye contact while your child is speaking. This lets children know that you value them and are interested in what they have to say. To show that you are listening, repeat what they say, or ask questions. You will see their eyes light up when they realize how important they are to you!
3. Give Your Undivided Attention. Share specific time together that does not include running errands, e-mailing, or anything of that nature, because then the activity being accomplished takes priority over the relationship. Take a technology break and push your “to do” list to tomorrow. Focus completely on your child. You will fall in love all over again with the beautiful little person God has blessed you with!
4. Uncover (Listen for) Clues. Identify your child’s interests and unique design. Take the time to speak into your child’s life. Give positive reinforcement by talking about your child’s God-given gifts. This builds self-confidence in children and helps them learn who God has made them to be. They will also be more likely to hear God’s voice amid all of the other voices that will speak into their lives as they grow.

When you devote time to your child and develop the precious relationship God entrusted you with, you will continue to unveil your child’s giftings each and every day. Look at your child through God’s eyes, seeing your little one as He does…a unique and wonderful treasure!

Ideas for “Dates” with Your Child

1. Go on a hike or a picnic. It makes for great conversation, and there are no distractions!
2. Check out your local recreation center—they have great activities and classes that you and your child can participate in together.
3. Go out to a special dinner together—just the two of you.
4. Cook a meal or special treat together.
5. Let your child choose an activity he or she likes, such as Lego building, shopping, pottery classes, etc. Then do it together.
6. Visit your local children’s museum, where you can play and explore together.